I haven’t written in a bit (and by a bit, I mean almost three months) because I have been crazy busy, too busy too open my laptop on some days. I consider writing deep intellectual work, and with that comes the procrastination of doing something my brain considers herculean. Here’s to breaking the jinx.
It feels like everything that could happen in the world has happened but somehow, the world hasn’t ended. It didn’t end on September 23 or on the other days it should have, but maybe it will be a slow burn.
One of the things I’ve learnt about myself is that I did not like making decisions. This is not exactly a new thing. I remember once (in 2015) asking a friend to sign a guarantor or referral form for me (not sure which) and he scored me a 3 out of 5 in decisiveness. That stung. But it was true. Before making a decision, I would crowdsource my decisions, asking everyone and anyone I considered a friend or ally. I would then sort of tally the yays and nays and make a decision based on that. Other times, I would get overwhelmed by the weight of decision making and file that thing away.
I’m getting close to forty even though I know it’s still a ways from here. Maybe it’s the one grey strand reminding me that I need to stop asking for permission and get ballsy. But I knew I couldn’t keep living that way. So I’ve started to surprise myself. In the last three months, I’ve made a few decisions that I would have typically spent many months “researching” which is code word for analysis paralysis. Here are a few questions that helped me make the process easier:
What’s in it for me (and what could go wrong), and weighing my options
Can I talk to an expert in the field?
Is it the right time?
What’s stopping me?
It’s 3 months to the end of the year and we probably have goals we don’t want to carry into next year. So if you’re looking to ramp up your decision making, or just get over the analysis paralysis, you can steal my style.
Life Lately
The sun is rising later, and it’s harder to go out in a t-shirt, but seasons change, and christmas is coming. This past weekend, I’ve been getting a lot of joy out of Adekunle Gold’s Fuji album. You should listen on Spotify and Apple Music.
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